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Safety and Anti-Harassment Policies

As it becomes clear that the Pagan community is not at all immune to harassing, abusive, and bigoted behavior, we need to respond by crafting safety (or anti-harassment) policies for our groups and our events. And, learn how to properly enforce these. This post is not meant to be all-inclusive, but rather, a start to the conversation. I hear from folks all the time that are overwhelmed at the prospect of adopting a safety policy.

TL;DR-- At the end, I'm going to post links to a few examples of safety/anti-harassment policies. I'm also going to dig around for some inclusivity policies. Sometimes those are separate, sometimes they are together. These are useful to pull from as a template so that you aren't starting with a blank page.

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  • Virginia Carper
    Virginia Carper says #
    May be people need to be specific in what they are discussing such as what bigotry and abuse was done by a victim. I have attended
  • Greybeard
    Greybeard says #
    EDITORIAL WARNING: The original comment has been removed. Victim blaming will not be tolerated on this site. This is your one war
  • Virginia Carper
    Virginia Carper says #
    I agree. One step is enforcement of policies. How is that to be done? I think that people don't like to "upset" others with their
  • Mark Green
    Mark Green says #
    Here are the policies I use for my Atheopagan events: Conduct standards: It is the intent of the producers that this event will b

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In Chief

 Warning: Contains Vulgarities

Abuser-in-Chief

Blowhard-in-Chief

Chump-in-Chief

Dotard-in-Chief

Embarrassment-in-Chief

Flip-flopper-in-Chief

Grabber-in-Chief

Hater-in-Chief

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  • Steven Posch
    Steven Posch says #
    To Any Yetis Who May Have been Offended by This Post: My profound apologies for my unthinking Yetiphobia. I am currently enrolled
  • Gus diZerega
    Gus diZerega says #
    A good start except for your slur on yetis... :-)
  • Steven Posch
    Steven Posch says #
    Silicon Valley doesn't own English, and long after Silicon Valley is gone, English will still be here. BtW, "Yahoo-in-Chief" is
  • Anthony Gresham
    Anthony Gresham says #
    I was actually thinking of the Merriam Webster's Collegiate Dictionary meaning. 1 : a member of a race of brutes in Swift's Gulli
  • Greybeard
    Greybeard says #
    So nice to read single digit intelligence on PaganSquare.

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Public Abusers in Paganism

Yesterday I heard the news about Susun Weed: that she was arrested for choking one of her students, that her abusive behavior is apparently nothing new. I've never really followed her work, so I didn't know about her reputation for hostility; when I followed the news and read all the accounts, old and new, of her mistreatment of students--when I saw that behavior justified and rationalized on her very own website--I immediately thought of other abusers in witchcraft, pagan, and earth-based communities. (Ahem.)

Some abusers are very good at crafting public personalities that mask their behavior in private. "What?" people claim when the allegations come out. "So-and-so would NEVER do that! They're so warm and kind and gentle!" Other abusers, though, lack that skill. They can't help but engage in very public, very visible abusive behavior: lashing out when they're challenged, screaming at people in rituals and classes, belittling their followers, enforcing corrosive hierarchies. Yet what should be obvious red flags are explained away. "Well, she's very passionate about her work." "He's calling someone out because he cares about justice." "They've got a warrior's spirit!" "Oh, she's a crone, don't take it personally." And here's the thing: even if, for some reason, you're okay with violent behavior in public, public abuse is usually only a taste of the abuse that's occurring in private, where power dynamics can be twisted in the abuser's favor. Think of 45: was anyone really shocked to learn that he's a violent rapist when we all heard him bragging openly about grabbing pussies?

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  • Virginia Carper
    Virginia Carper says #
    One more comment, this was discussed in another forum which featured a writing from Weed. In it, she compared herself to Baba Yaga
  • Asa West
    Asa West says #
    Working with "dark" deities can be a really transformative experience if you undertake that work mindfully and with a commitment t
  • Virginia Carper
    Virginia Carper says #
    What struck me was why put it on her website and have people focus on it? It is a red flag to a casual observer that this person i
  • Cristina Potmesil
    Cristina Potmesil says #
    All abusers have to justify their behavior. Most often it is by projecting blame onto the other person for a baffling assortment o
  • Virginia Carper
    Virginia Carper says #
    As a parent, I was told to never yell at my children. Yelling was useless. It was also a sign that the adult gave up. Yelling was

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The Drama of Victim, Hero, and Villain

 

"The abuser won. Everything is back to the way it was before."

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Sedna’s Daughters

Welcome to the Sedna’s Daughters’ Blog, Home to Women Helping Women recover from Family Aggression and Rejection!

Sedna’s Daughters has had a virtual presence on the web since March of 2015, as well as a Facebook page, and now we have entered the Blogosphere to reach more daughters. This blog will present a forum to discuss, and bring out of the closet, the many daughters who suffer from Family Aggression. Sadly, many women are estranged from or have been rejected by their families, biological and adopted. Since its debut, hundreds of women have visited the website and many left their stories of shock, despair, courage, and healing about their experiences of family rejection. Here is the link.

With the current #metoo and #timesup movements in America that provide an international forum for women to speak out about sexual harassment, Sedna’s Daughters creates a similar space for daughters to raise awareness about Family Violence Against Women.

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A Warning to All Students of the Craft

 Caveat discipulus.

(“Let the student beware.”)

There may be some things that unquestioning obedience can teach you.

The Craft isn't one of them.

The Wise take initiative. The Wise know how to say No.

Alas, it needs to be repeated in every generation.

If your teacher wants you to do something that you don't feel right doing, Grab your broomstick and get out of there.

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Sexual Initiation, Discrimination, Consent, and Rape

 

I have heard from many people who felt pressured to undergo a sexual initiation with a teacher, coven leader, or other person in a leadership position. If someone's been pressured into sex, that's manipulation and abuse. And in circumstances where there wasn’t actually consent, by definition, it’s rape.

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  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Shauna, thank you for writing an important, detailed article with ideas that are carefully thought out. I saved the link so I can
  • Thesseli
    Thesseli says #
    This is an excellent article.

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