When I was finishing up my Priestess training with the Nicole Christie lineage, the high Priestess Anyaa Mc Andrew, consistently encouraged us to define how we were going to use our Priestessing skills and selves in the world in a tangible way. Never did I imagine that my marriage would become a vessel for my Priestessing.
 
Since my ordination I have come to appreciate how wise and prophetic those instructions were, what I didn't know then was that once I left the Priestess training circle I would be bringing my Priestess self everywhere with me, there was no Candise waiting in line at the bank while Priestess of Grace sat under the dark of the moon in circle, Priestess of Grace is a part of me, an archetype that has been awakened and integrated into the very fabric of my being. Wherever I go, she goes. Candise sits in circle under the dark of the moon and Priestess of Grace stands in line, we are One and the same.
 
I celebrated my five year wedding anniversary on the Winter Solstice of this year. On December 21, 2012, the day when some believed that the world would end, and others believed powerful portals of energy that would rocket us into a new dimension would open up, my Beloved Twin Flame and I committed to seek out Goddess/God in one another, for all of eternity, until we once again merged back into Source energy.
 

 

I hadn't realized it at the time, but my vow to spend the rest of my lives seeking out God in my husband was another way that I was bringing the Priestess archetype back into our world. The role of a Priestess is to merge the realms and when I attempt to live in the earthly realm beholding the heavenly realm I am being that Priestess bridge, my marriage wasn't only for my human experience, it was a dedication to the world, it is a part of my Priestess calling, for as I learn to see the Beloved in my husband I hone that ability to find Source in everyone and everything.
 
In reflecting on the past five years of marriage and in response to a friend's inquiry about how I see God in my husband on the daily I became acutely aware of how often I fall short of my vows and have been recommitting to strengthening them and utilizing tools to do so. As I do this I am reminded of my sacred calling to behold Source in all beings that I come into contact with, this practice, what ancient sages and Masters have called 'transmuting' is one of the more potent ways that I show up as Priestess in the world.
 
The most inspiring part of my marriage vows for me was when I committed to find God in my husband so that I could better do that for all of humanity, this is a way that I bridge the realm of Love with the realm of duality.
 
When my husband is in doubt, fear, anger or apathy and I choose to see beyond the behaviour and to feel beyond the energetic imprints being thrown around I can contact the Source of his being, his true essence, this recognition calls forth his most Divine and beautiful self. The more I choose to behold the God in him the easier it is for me to 'transfigure' him and the more apt I am at doing this with the members of my community and even the world at large.
 
To transfigure is to look into another's eyes until we see the Creator looking back at us, if staring deep into another's eyes in the community isn't available or appropriate I find other, more subtle means to behold Source, I sense for Her, I pray to Her in the other and stick with it until I feel Her enveloping me, the person and the situation. 
 
To transfigure my husband and the world at large is a choice that I have to make on a moment to moment basis, it is much easier to condemn a Trump and to fear or loathe him than it is to transfigure him. It is easier because I am surrounded by third dimensional energy and the story surrounding him is loaded and bouncing all over society at this time. Yet, if I transfigure those closest to me and make this practice into a habit then the 'bigger' stories become more available for me to transfigure
 
My marriage, through the eyes of my Priestess self, is much more than the blessed gift to me and my daughters that it is, it is a calling forth of my highest self to learn to love, and to behold Truth despite the appearances to the seeming contrary that come up on a day to day basis. Thus marriage has merged into a mode of Priestessing for me, it is a spot of inspiration and a vortex of opportunity for my power and abilities to strengthen and expand into the world.
 
As the Gregorian calendar year comes to a close, and my marriage anniversary is celebrated, I will take this as a reminder, that love, when sanctified and offered up to the Goddess, is more than something for my human self to enjoy, it is a call to action and an invitation for the Priestess in me to rise up. Priestessing it seems can be accomplished in every relationship and every situation that I remember my sacred calling in, the be that bridge between the higher and lower realms.
 
For the year 2018 I am brining a deeper commitment to transfiguration within my marriage and the life that I live, I commit to finding Goddess behind the appearances of this realm so that Her presence can more easily be sensed, tapped into and experienced in the here and now. May this next phase of life usher more of Her into all of our consciousness.
 
Grace Be With You,
Priestess of Grace,
Candise Soaring Butterfly
 
 
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