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Don't Be So Grabby!

I have been guilty of this, myself. In a social situation you are introduced to someone who spies the mystical pendant you wear on a neck chain. Without stopping to think, she exclaims, "Oh!  What a beautiful piece!" and she reaches out and grabs it, to see it more closely.  

Ouch! That hurts! It's a sudden feeling of shock and discomfort. And it's real. You just had your aura violated, directly over your heart chakra. 

This is more than invading your psychological "comfort zone." It is an actual penetration of the bio-electrical energy field surrounding your body. And it feels even worse if that jewelry item has a personal spiritual significance for you - a private meaning that you will share if asked by somebody with the right vibes, but which you were not ready for any Tom, Dick or Harry to roughly grab! 

You wanted people to see it and admire it - to even ask questions about it. You did not expect to have it appropriated physically, without your permission.  

If you are the wearer of such a significant item of jewelry, part of your spiritual practice is to get used to violations and to cultivate an attitude of understanding. It would be a good idea to ask friends and family members to grab it first, before you wear it too much in public. This can be a valuable strengthening exercise for you. Don't be taken by surprise! If you think your pendant is special, someone else is bound to think so, too. So be prepared. 

There are two ways in which this exercise can help you. First, you will get desensitized to the feeling of your aura being invaded without your permission - which will help you to stay calm, non-reactive and understanding if it should occur in public. Second, you will begin to understand that the true significance of your spiritual talisman is the meaning it has for you, within the inviolate sanctuary of your own heart. Nobody can reach inside there without your permission. Even if your pendant is stolen someday - and jewelry items can be - you will always have the one inside your heart. 

This can be a profound lesson on many levels of your life. The less attached you become to an outward symbol, the more strongly you will feel the reality within. And that is the true value of such an item, anyway. 

But the next time you see something shiny hanging from someone else's neck, stop and think! Admire and ask. Don't maul.



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A student of esoteric traditions since the age of 16, Ted Czukor (Theo the Green) taught Yoga for 37 years until retiring in 2013. For 26 years he was adjunct faculty for the Maricopa, AZ Community Colleges, teaching Gentle Yoga and Meditation & Wellness. Raised in the Methodist Church but drawn to Rosicrucianism, Hinduism and Buddhist philosophy, he is a devotee of the Goddess in all Her forms. Ted has been a Shakespearean actor, a Masonic ritualist and an Interfaith wedding officiant. He is the author of several books, none of which made any money and two of which are available as .pdf files. He lives with his wife Ravyn-Morgayne in Sun City, Arizona. Their shared dream is to someday relocate to Glastonbury, England.


  • Terence P Ward
    Terence P Ward Tuesday, 28 January 2014

    In my youth, I experienced both sides of this interaction, and I really could have used this guidance then! I'm particularly impressed by the idea of exercising your tolerance. Like most brilliant ideas, it's so simple I wonder why I never thought of it myself.

  • Eva
    Eva Tuesday, 28 January 2014

    Culturally most people think it is acceptable to be touchy feely with a stranger's adornments if they are complimenting them. Having experienced this it taught me a lesson to wear jewels sacred to me on the inside of clothing next to my skin. This keeps a person out of my personal space and has the added benefit of tactile connection and a gentle reminder of the infinite.

  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor Tuesday, 28 January 2014

    Thanks, Terence. Good suggestion, Eva. But if you're a theatrical person like me, you can't resist the urge to put your costume pieces on display.

  • Sherry Doveren
    Sherry Doveren Wednesday, 29 January 2014

    I agree with Eva. Keep pieces that are "sacred" to you under your clothing. Keep pieces that are considered "costume jewelry" front and center for other people to of both worlds!

  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor Wednesday, 29 January 2014

    I understand what you mean, Sherry, and I appreciated Eva's point also. But as a former Shakespearean actor and Masonic ritualist, I used the word "costume" in the sense of a defining uniform or spiritual persona - not in the sense of "costume jewelry," something cheap or insignificant. My sacred pieces are worn on the outside, to attract the attention of like-minded individuals whom I might not otherwise meet.

    I acknowledge that this requires some spiritual toughness, because of the unenlightened ones I have to endure in the meantime. I'm 66 now, but 20 or 30 years ago I would have worn an esoteric pendant under my clothes, being too insecure to expose my convictions to the world. Each person must make this decision based on his or her stage of development and comfort level.

    Thanks for adding to the discussion.

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