FAQ: I want to be a good heathen and honor ancestors but my ancestors were bad people. Who can I honor?
Related FAQ: I'm going to be attending a sumbel in which there will be a round toasted to the ancestors, but I was adopted and don't know my ancestors' names. Who can I honor?
My answer: One can honor Askr and Embla, the first man and woman according to heathen mythology (made by Odin and his brothers.) One could also honor any gods that appear in one's family tree. According to heathen mythology, everyone is descended from Rig, whom most Asatruars consider to be an aspect of Heimdall, thus, anyone could honor Heimdall. There might also be other gods one could include among ancestors, depending on one's family line. I have honored Lollus as an ancestor.
You don't have to honor your literal biological ancestors to be a good heathen. When the sumbel horn is passed in the ancestor round, you can honor the mighty dead whom you admire whether you are lineally related to them or not. You can honor your personal heroes, the elders of your path, a writer who influenced you-- that's my personal hope of ever being remembered, since I have no children. You can honor the founders of your nation, city, profession, or art. Honor your spouse's ancestors. Toast your favorite childhood teacher, the composer of your favorite song, or anyone with whom you have an emotional connection.
God bless the master of this house, The misteress also, And all the little children That round your table grow. Likewise young men and maidens, Your cattle and your store; And all that dwells within your gates, We wish you ten times more.
Ancestors of the loins. These are our physical forebears.
Ancestors of the heart. These are those forebears whom (for whatever reason) we love, though they are no blood kin.
Ancestors of the head. These are our intellectual forebears.
These are only some kinds of ancestors, of course. (The ancestors of the tongue are our linguistic ancestors. Those of us of the Tribe of Witches have forebears in the Craft: the ancestors of the blood.) We are all the children of many lineages.
As pagans, we are intimate with our ancients. Living by their lore, we engage with them in our every waking moment.
As the Wheel of the Year turns and I begin to feel the veil thinning once again, I’m reminded of one way the beloved dead are honored throughout the South. Drive through the countryside, and you’ll likely see church signs announcing “Homecoming and Decoration.” It’s an invitation to those with relatives buried in the church cemetery to spruce up the graves, put flowers on them, and enjoy a potluck meal, sometimes referred to as “dinner on the ground.” Though meals are usually served in a fellowship hall now, that term originated from spreading out picnic blankets and dining on the cemetery grounds.
I’m sure you can see some parallels with our Samhain traditions and Dia de los Muertos. A major difference is that southern churches tend to hold decorations in May rather than October. I find that interesting, since May is also a time when the other side is more accessible. Beltane and Samhain are opposite each other on the Wheel of the Year, and both carry that liminal, otherworldly energy in different ways.
In the old days, people would hibernate somewhat in the winter. Tools would be repaired, activities went from tending the earth to resting. Animals were tended but outside work was minimal mostly because the weather prohibited it. Though there were worries about food and fuel lasting through the dark times, it was a quieter more restful time of the year.
Now we don't have the luxury of staying indoors by a warm fire. We also don't have to worry about food or fuel being scarce. The frenetic pace of life continues even when we get a snowstorm dropping inches of snow on us. We wait until the plows dig us out and continue with our lives. Rarely do we take a day or week or more to stay at home, cuddle in and ignore the fast pace life we normally have.
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