
So many of the leadership problems that I see in the Pagan community come down to issues of our personal identity. There are leadership techniques for building healthy communities, models for understanding group dynamics, and tools to mediate conflicts. But the truth is…all of that stuff is a house built on a faulty foundation if we don’t also do our personal work.
To do that work, we have to understand identity.
And we also have to admit that all of us need to do this work. Unfortunately, the way identity functions can make it hard to change our own bad behaviors, and ego is pretty good at denial. When a group blows up you’ll often hear, “It’s just too much ego.” They’re sort of right, but it’s a little more complicated.
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Oh man I have a few things to work on: Not making decisions because I want people to like me Gossip! That turns into... Toxic
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You all have inspired me to do a few posts on gossip. I'm thinking at least one on discerning between information sharing and mali
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I did the exercise and posted it above. Then I took it to turn into a paper to post over my desk... Here's what it looks like:
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Wow. This is timely. I've been engaging in mirror work around this, and have found: 1. Overcommitment, which leads to... 2. Poor
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Over committing is a big one for me and I must admit that I will entertain gossip.