Sedna’s Daughters: Healing from Family Estrangement

Families in patriarchal cultures often mete out similar types of domination and oppression on their daughters that women experience in the larger world. For many daughters (and sons/trans/genderqueer folks), this includes scapegoating and rejection. Sedna’s Daughters provides a safe space for discussion on earth-based, spiritual approaches to healing from the confusing experience of family estrangement and recognizes all people's inherent belonging to Mother Earth, the human family, and the cosmos.

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Sedna

Sedna

I have a Ph.D., am a victim's advocate, college-level educator, and was shunned by my maternal biological kin and their family friends over a decade ago. I have built an international community of daughters (and sons) committed to supporting one another and thriving despite the aggression of our relatives. “Sedna” is the EuroAmerican name of a revered Inuit Creatrix who was violently rejected by her parents and cast into the sea to die, but instead survived to create otters, seals, and whales.  Sedna is also the name of a star just appearing in the farthest reaches of our solar system and discovered by astronomers on November 14, 2003. Nick Anthony Fiorenza writes that "Sedna's message here is that humanity must recognize the truth about the suppression, persecution, abduction and exploitation of the feminine force in the world; and this mentality perpetuating such must be addressed and changed." Healing women is my life's work. See my Facebook Page at https://www.facebook.com/SednasD/

b2ap3_thumbnail_95792621.jpgIn recognition and honor of the solar eclipse in Cancer tomorrow, the constellation of Home and Family in astrology, I offer this poem. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, the Mother, and I hope it opens something in readers to a place of contemplation about the role of forgiveness, of simultaneously holding the truths of our wounding as daughters (and sons) while also honoring the humanity of our mothers--with compassion, with deep love and compassion, minimizing nothing, accepting completely what was and is between us in one of the most powerful relationships we will ever have as a human.

May seeds of healing be planted in all daughters and mothers, and all people, with this powerful eclipse.

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b2ap3_thumbnail_Family-separation.jpgIn the national news headlines of America these past weeks, our country has been overrun with images of migrant families torn apart. We have heard the heartbreaking cries of children and the pleas of parents who long to be reunited with their precious kids. But what about American parents who are sending their teen and adult children away deliberately, consciously, without looking back? What about the families who are attacking their grown-up children in person, in social media, and demanding the entire family ostracize them because of their political beliefs? These are not parents who are pleading or weeping for their daughters or sons to return to them, but parents who are saying "I disown you!" because they disagree with them.

Today, we are witnessing so many instances of the crumbling of the pretext of Unconditional Love in our families and realizing that parental and family love comes with very clear conditions: Agree With Us or You're Out! For many daughters, sons, and genderqueer people, what was once minor political disagreements (or at least you could live with those differences by avoiding discussing them) has become grounds for utter cut-off and outright attack. John Erickson writes about his experience in a 2016 blog post called "A Letter To Those I've Lost" that you can read here: https://feminismandreligion.com/2016/12/22/a-letter-to-those-ive-lost/

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Honour-Based Violence is the most extreme expression of a family's aggression toward their daughter (and also sons and transpeople). Known in America primarily as "honor killings", Honour-Based Violence (HBV) is an act of physical violence committed by one or more male family members on their daughter/sister/auntie. The acts of violence are extreme and include murder. Contrary to how HBV is portrayed in American media, there is no one religion, culture, or nation that practices HBV. HBV is widespread around the world, and that includes Europe and a few incidences in the United States.

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  • Sedna
    Sedna says #
    Thank you for the acknowledgement, Carol!
  • Carol P. Christ
    Carol P. Christ says #
    Thanks for opening a space for women.

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"You are Mine. You have always belonged to Me. Take my hand, Beloved Daughter."

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  • Sedna
    Sedna says #
    Thank you for commenting, Anne. We daughters so often try very hard to connect with our mothers who are unable, for complex reason
  • Anne Newkirk Niven
    Anne Newkirk Niven says #
    Thank you so much for your wise words. My relationship with my mother was always fraught due to her brokenness and mental illness

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