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Crisis, Compassion, and Accountability

During crisis, I find being gentle with myself vital. However, were gentleness with myself to take precedence over gentleness with other people, I’d be widely amiss.


Gentleness with myself is not tantamount to forgoing moral accountability, but rather acknowledging what I’ve done wrong without shaming myself for it. We are all only human. We will all make mistakes. Compassion for others means rectifying whatever errors I make.


Compassion for others also requires the practice of self-awareness, so I spot my ill behavior, as well as notice an impulse toward an unkind deed so I can nip it in the bud.


Instead, many individuals have a harmful motive for supporting the message of gentleness with self. It is their code (perhaps subconsciously) for “Despite crisis causing even greater problems than usual for people with less privilege, the upper class is still allowed to center all conversations on their own needs, racists can continue to contribute to systemic racism, sexist men can continue to put their needs before women’s,” etc.


This misinterpretation of self-care is, in fact, shaming. It implies those with less privilege lack compassion unless they support their own oppression by agreeing that oppressors are being gentle with themselves when they don’t hold themselves accountable for their misdeeds.


Goddess, help me be compassionate—including to myself—by maintaining awareness regarding my moral state, noting my mistakes, without harshly condemning myself for them, making reparation, and not allowing anyone to delude me into conspiring toward my own subjugation. So mote it be!


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Francesca De Grandis aka Outlaw Bunny is the bestselling author of "Be a Goddess!" Founder of The Third Road, a Faerie Shamanism tradition that she teaches through both text and oral tradition, De Grandis says, "I'm a trickster working for benevolent chaos Gods, so I don't play mean tricks." Bard, painter, mystical innovator, and busy elf who works part-time for Santa Claus, she blogs here and on her own sites, www.stardrenched.com and www.outlawbunny.com


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