A Faerie Haven: Living in Myth, Being Magic

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Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis, AKA Outlaw Bunny, authored the classic text "Be a Goddess!" Founder of Third Road, a Faerie Shamanism tradition that she teaches through both text and oral tradition, De Grandis explains, "I'm a non-theist, pantheist pagan serving Goddess. Mother and all my Gods, thank you." Ecstatic paradox. Bard, painter, spiritual innovator, Whedon fan, middle management for Chaos Gods, and busy elf, she also blogs, including on her own sites, www.stardrenched.com and www.outlawbunny.com

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Ancestral Trauma

Before you were even conceived, the burning times had terrorized your soul. But you can reclaim your Pagan power. 

During the European persecutions, thousands of women were killed as witches. Accusers would sometimes wipe out almost all the women of a village, along with some of the men.

I believe the burning times traumatized our DNA. This following shows how I picture it happening. 

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To Find My Ancestors

One Pagan's DNA Research

My ancestors are important to my shamanic path. My previous post discusses that and why taking an AncestryDNA test is part of that path for me. 

Today's post discusses my feelings as I waited for the test results, my reactions to the results, and the adventure it put me on as a Pagan. 

An AncestryDNA test predicts ethnicity. Waiting for test results, I wondered if I'd like them. I felt excitement and a bit of trepidation.

I was empowered thinking about the benefits my friends' experienced. One friend learned which regions in Africa her ancestors hailed from. Prior to that, she did not know where in Africa she was from. Another friend uncovered secrets her family had hidden. This freed her from decades of lies.  

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  • Joyce ORourke
    Joyce ORourke says #
    I loved reading about your experience with the DNA testing and your results. Did you ever just know something about yourself since
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Joyce, Thanks for checking out the blog. I am delighted you liked it. And yes, I really hear you about knowing stuff despite any
  • aought
    aought says #
    Yes, I look forward to having my DNA analyzed. Oh, the ancestry that is buried. Raised "English," (Grandma was an English immigran
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    aought, thanks so much for your perspective on this. I am glad that you agree with me that 1) discovering one's ethnicity both doe

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DNA and Ancestral Ritual

Science and magic meet. I won't choose between mysticism and science. They can feed each other.

My ancestors are spiritually important to me. So I'm combining science and spirit in a deeply personal way: I ordered an AncestryDNA test kit

A mystic, I travel through the blood in my veins, back through time, to discover the ancient ways my family once practiced. Today, the logical rational side of me does the same by spitting into a vial. This test tube becomes a chalice that arrived by mail, enclosed in plastic. Two supposedly disparate halves of me come together to feed my spirit. 

I mailed my saliva, part of my sacred body, to scientists, who will analyze it to reveal my ethnic background. They'll go back through many generations, the same way my meditations have. Their work will expand my otherworldly travels. 

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  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    Honestly I was a bit bummed. My husband had a more interesting mix (and surprising to find out he has a significant amount of Nat
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Arwen, I can see how that would be a bummer. But you're such a gorgeous woman, your ancestors must've been beautiful too.
  • Arwen Lynch
    Arwen Lynch says #
    I did mine and it was as I expected. European to the very core with that 5% nod to the Sub-Saharan wanderers.
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Arwen, was it an interesting experience to have what you had always been told confirmed? My dad's side of the family turns out to
  • Kin Roberts
    Kin Roberts says #
    I just received my DNA kit from Ancestry. Looking forward to the results.
Number Crunching, Number Magic

Do you want to live in a world where magic holds sway, or a world restricted by "facts"?

Many of us were taught to "face facts," which is often another way of saying, "Work 24/7, trapped by fear and one-sided "evidence." There's an alternative: Joyful play is powerful magic. Relaxing and enjoying life aligns us with the Divine flow of abundance and power.

In a recent counseling session, I advised someone, who deals with a lot of numbers in his business, to not get bossed around by the numbers. Numbers might suggest limits that ritual can transcend. 

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  • irene boyce
    irene boyce says #
    Hi Francesca, all my life I've known I've been walking a destined path. As a teenager 13/14 ish, I was walking home from school w
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Irene, thank you for going to such great lengths to convey your experiences with numbers. May your days always be blessed with bea
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    Been off-line for several weeks, and was happy to see this upon returning. As someone who has dyscalculia (but nobody knew what th
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, hi, good to see you! I was wondering where you'd gone to. Thanks so much for reading my blog and for your kind words about it

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What Constitutes Easy?

I have spent two and a half years preparing to move across country. It has not been easy.

When I told my spiritual advisor I wanted to move because I hate it here, she responded, "I don't want you leaving till you're happy there. I don't want you running from something; I want you running toward something."

The advice was sound, despite years of my working hard at being happy here. So I set about finding more happiness. Mind you, this place hadn’t made me completely forlorn. I'd had immense joy and self-fulfillment. And I'm aware that happiness is an inside job. There's just a lot here I loathe. I needed to make peace with it.

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  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    "The sense of camaraderie that occurs when we tell our problems." Yes, indeed. At present that is all we can offer you, but we ha
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Yes, purgatory. The hassle of repairs right now on top of everything else… And when I saw the leak, I realized I have had a lot of

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Zombie Plague Morals

The zombie apocalypse provides a metaphor for moral plague. When a great deal of the population stumbles around like spiritual zombies, can other individuals still live a principled way of life?

Let's use the zombie apocalypse as a metaphor thusly: There's a moral plague in our society and, as time passes, more and more people fall prey to it.

Here's a way the metaphor might play out: When infected by this moral illness, people are no longer human, but feed off humans, including those they once loved and protected. We fight the zombies, chop off their heads, so they cannot hurt us—these once human but now spiritually derailed monsters.

As time passes, they rot, becoming less and less recognizable as human, and more and more terrifying. Despite our valiant efforts, more and more people are lost, even our loved ones. To protect ourselves from loved ones, we must decapitate them.

In this time of moral lethargy, when many people stumble around like spiritual zombies, what do we do? 

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  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    WHAT A HOOT! I LOVE IT! This resonates with our cultural paranoia about psychopaths, which has been taken advantage of and agg
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Thank you so much! You, of course, understand what I'm trying to say. That always feels good. Especially since I read the article

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Tarot and Lenormand Decks

Recently, my friend SnowStar bestowed a major blessing on me, gifting me 67 divination  decks from her personal collection.

Her amazing generosity was only matched by the gift's synchronicity: I've collected decks over my 30 years as a professional card reader, then lost a substantial portion of my collection due to a bug infestation two years ago.

SnowStar asked me which decks she sent particularly struck me, so I pulled together some personal notes I'd made, and thought I'd share them here with you, too. And please tell me about a deck or decks you particularly love. I love to hear about experiences with tarot or Lenormand decks.

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  • Janet Boyer
    Janet Boyer says #
    It IS the first time we've chatted! Imagine my surprise to realize I was following you on Twitter (I looked you up). D'oh! Ah, a
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Great to meet you, Janet, I look forward to more chats.
  • Janet Boyer
    Janet Boyer says #
    Ohhhh, how wonderful! I love that you call your prints "spiritual artifacts". I especially love your snowflake image; I adore any
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Janet, Thank you for so many kind comments! I'm delighted you like that i call my prints "spiritual artifacts," because it took me
  • Janet Boyer
    Janet Boyer says #
    Hi Francesca! What a lovely friend you have. I really like the Tarot of the Magical Forest. Have you seen it? http://www.janetboy

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