Paganistan: Notes from the Secret Commonwealth

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On Becoming a Man



So, you're becoming a man. Well, good for you: it's good to be a man.

Here's the thing to remember: there are many different ways to be one.

It took me a long time to discover this. Everything that I saw and heard said: This is how to be a man. That wasn't me, so I thought: Maybe I'm not a man.

But I was wrong.

It's work, becoming a man, hard work. That work now lies before you.

But your work is not to become my kind of man, or anyone else's kind of man. Your work is to become the man that you can be, and no one else can tell you what that is, but only you.

There are many ways to be a man, and each of us has to find his own.

Manhood is your birthright. But you have to find your own way to it.

Luck of the journey be with you, my son.

The Sun and Moon on your trail.


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Poet, scholar and storyteller Steven Posch was raised in the hardwood forests of western Pennsylvania by white-tailed deer. (That's the story, anyway.) He emigrated to Paganistan in 1979 and by sheer dint of personality has become one of Lake Country's foremost men-in-black. He is current keeper of the Minnesota Ooser.


  • Kile Martz
    Kile Martz Friday, 06 August 2021

    In this age when gender is both elevated and devalued, the path is difficult and unclear.

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