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How Doubt Affects a Reading
Here in central Illinois, the first days of spring have brought with them the heaviest snowfall of the year! It seems even Mother Nature has doubts about what is happening, and what is to happen next, as the Holly King and the Oak King battle it out for the season. Doubt is something that is just part of human nature, but it can truly thwart the energies during a psychic reading.
I often have clients ask me, "How do you know that?" The smartmouth in me wants to reply, "Because I'm psychic and you're paying me to see these things," but I do enjoy repeat clients! The truth is, we have to accept that what is screamingly obvious to us as a reader may be totally alien to the person for whom we are doing the reading. After all, if they knew the answers, they probably wouldn't be seeking them from us, would they?!
Tact is necessary on both sides of the conversation during difficult readings. Very often the client does not want to hear what the reader has to share. That also is human nature; we want what we want when we want it, and if we are determined that this is what we want, no one is going to be able to talk us out of it. The art is in presenting what we as readers see in such a way that the client can accept it.
These types of readings usually apply to relationships. Person A wants Person B in his or her life, but Person B is making it blatantly clear that they do not want to be there. This is where the information needs to be fed a morsel at a time, so that the client can feel empowered and optimistic about his or her future, whether or not Person B is going to be there.
As good readers, it is our job to bring our clients into a place of empowerment, not to lie to them and tell them what they want to hear. Yes, there are some unscrupulous readers who will do that; they make the job of being a professional reader difficult for those who are doing this work as a path of service.
It doesn't stop with the reader, though. The client has his or her part to play in the way that the reading goes. If the client is adamant that there is only one answer, and it is not the answer that the reader seeks, things are going to get very sticky very quickly -- or it is going to be a very short reading!
Let's look at this from a client's point of view. Our clients play good money for the reading; we need to encourage them to be open to what is ahead. Remind them that there is always more than one answer to a situation, and encourage them to be open to all possibilities, not just the one.
At the end of the day, not all client / reader interactions are going to be a walk in the park. There is no need for them to turn into a train wreck, though. Both the client and the reader always have the option to simply say that a connection is not being made, and terminate the reading. Trust me, most readers I know will appreciate a client's honesty in the matter. Readers are going to have difficult clients; clients are going to have readers with whom they don't gel, because as people, we are all unique. This is why I truly believe that finding a reader is like finding a hair stylist. Keep looking until a suitable partnership is found, and stay there.
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