A Faerie Haven: Living in Myth, Being Magic

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Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis

Francesca De Grandis, AKA Outlaw Bunny, authored the classic text "Be a Goddess!" Founder of Third Road, a Faerie Shamanism tradition that she teaches through both text and oral tradition, De Grandis explains, "I'm a non-theist, pantheist pagan serving Goddess. Mother and all my Gods, thank you." Ecstatic paradox. Bard, painter, spiritual innovator, Whedon fan, middle management for Chaos Gods, and busy elf, she also blogs, including on her own sites, www.stardrenched.com and www.outlawbunny.com

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Diana Lucifera
Love, Beauty, Blessings, and Occult Danger
 

Diana, the Light Bearer. 
Magna Mater.
Goddess of Stregas.
You are all power, love, and beauty.
You are bliss.
You are eternity in which I reside each moment.
You are every moment.
 
This blog is not about the wonderful Diana that many American Pagans know—virgin huntress and patron of Dianic Wicca, a women-only witchcraft tradition.
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    Arwen Lynch says #
    This moved me. Praying the prayer rather than simply reading it was an experience I can't quite put into words. So I'll just say t
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Oh, my goodness, Arwen, thank you so much, I've known you a long time so and know you to be a person of depth, so I'm really grate
  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    Francesca, your pieces always brighten my day. Thank you for the introduction to this Diana, for the powerful Prayer for Solace,

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Try the Doors
Long term trauma, shamanism, bodhisattvas. Alice down the rabbit hole sees a tiny door. Hear me when I say, "You will triumph."

a1sx2_Thumbnail1_TryTDoors.jpgIf trauma is the door to shamanism, can long-term trauma make you a bodhisattva?

Yes, I made a joke. But not entirely.

What doors do you neglect?

What door is in front of you right this second?

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  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    So good to hear from you again, Francesca. I was a mite worried about what I perceived to be an extended silence, and am happy to
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, thank you, my dear, I am so glad you like the piece. And you are utterly sweet, thank you for your concern. But not an extend

 There are many ways to approach magic—when I look with my Faerie sight, I see that the very fiber of our universe is possibilities and power. 

One style of spell-casting is to choose a certain possibility or flow—for example, abundance or love—then leave oneself open to it. This is often how I do my magic. I believe it's a very sophisticated, advanced working.
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My wyrd New Year's resolution: Ecstasy and ease.  

Sometimes, it is vital to do things the easy way. I work hard on my spirituality. That's important. But we can get stuck in the idea that growth has to be all work, no play. The resulting experience sucks—I do not want to feel like God's drone!—and does not always make for the most inner growth or power. So I constantly create fun modalities for inner change, for my students and myself.
 
Life and growth will not always be easy. When I'm counseling a trauma survivor, we may be in painful tears together. That is a good thing. Hard work, balanced by fun and ease, has been my ongoing approach.
 
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  • Ted Czukor
    Ted Czukor says #
    I love your fantasy portrait, Francesca. A Happy and Easy New Year to all of us.
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, thank you! Yes, blessings on all our new year. Best to Ravyn-Morgayne.

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Faerie Tea Party with Star Tea

A Story for the Whole Family

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  • Jeanine Byers
    Jeanine Byers says #
    Wonderful post! I've made moon tea before. Maybe now I'll try star tea! I'm glad to get to read your posts here, too. ~Jeanine
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Jeanine, I am so glad u like it, bc u r the first person to give me feedback, whew (I only just finished the story and art), so th

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I posted a piece about Olivia on my own site in April. Anne NN invited me to repost it here, which I think will help me with my grief.

I am stunned. Not in the sense of not expecting it, but in the sense of the shock of grief. I loved Olivia and respected her more than I can explain right this minute, bc I am too overwhelmed at this loss to find the right words.

But I can simply say there is no priestess I admired more.

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    Ted Czukor says #
    Francesca - I am so sorry for your loss, and I understand. We know intellectually that our teachers and gurus - like our mothers a
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Ted, thank u for yr comforting and beautiful words of consolation, they mean a lot to me. And to not cause confusion, Olivia and L
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Just wrote the following on the FOI FB page, and feel moved to add it here: Olivia and Lawrence touched me deeply, in ways no one

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Worship. It's become a "bad" word. Years of oppression have turned the sweetness of worship into bitter chains. Centuries of censure replaced the ecstasy of divine embrace with a dogma of sadness. But I worship you, who reads this now.
 
I worship the trees. I worship snow as it falls on my face. I lift my face to the sky to worship it.
 
And I will not relinquish the joy of lifting my face and heart to worship my Gods. 
 
I rededicate the word "worship." I free it for anyone who should want it. No one gets to exclusively own it. I free it to be whatever each individual wants it to be. I free it for anyone who wants to give and receive the love and power that can occur in worship.
 
So mote it be.
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  • Jeanine Byers
    Jeanine Byers says #
    I totally agree, Francesca!
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Thank you! Yay!!!!!!
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    Harrison K. Hall says #
    Well said.

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In the 80s, I had a roommate who was learning Buddhist meditation. His weekly class happened to be a night on which I always attended a lengthy Faerie ritual.

Every week, when we both returned home, I'd ask, "How was your meditation?"

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    Kalyca Schultz says #
    I love this.
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Kalyca, thank you so much.
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    De nada .

I Carry Fey Magic Within, Fey Magic is Within All that Surrounds Me

b2ap3_thumbnail_WherFeyLivBluSmall.jpg Wholeness within and all around me.
Beauty within and all around me.
Joy within and all around me.
The Fey touch all I do.

The Fey touch all I do.
Struggle gone within and all around me.
Fear gone within and all around me.
Scarcity gone within and all around me.

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  • Agata Nowicka
    Agata Nowicka says #
    Beautiful and so true. Love the bit about "no other" and struggle gone. Looking forward to more of your posts, Francesca! x
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Agata, Tu muchly for reading, commenting, and kind words!!!
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    Molly says #
    Yes, I am like you1 My drafts folder on my regular blog contained over 100 posts, waiting to be polished off. My folder of record

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Heya, you pagan artists, spiritual teachers, psychics, and anyone else offering sacred services or goods, check out my radio interview, Aug 13, 3 PM EST. 

It will also be available to download for free immediately after it airs. 
 
The work of our community's healers, writers, et al is vital, so helping them market themselves feels like an important way for me to serve. 
 
I hope the interview helps writers, healers, and other creatives think strategically about online marketing. That includes social media marketing for self-publishing.
 
As a spiritual counselor, I try to combine practical and mystical advice. And something I tell clients who are stymied by self-promotion is: Heart-based marketing is not an oxymoron. 
 
If you want to know more about what I call "The Sacred Marketplace," check out the show.
 
Beverly Macy, the interviewer, is an intelligent ethical thought-leader in social media marketing.
 
 
And let me know what you think about the show!!!
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    Arwen Lynch says #
    Francesca, I'm sad I missed your interview. I'll hit the archives though.
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Hi, honey, the complete show is archived. And thanks, Arwen, for reading this post. I hope the show is useful for you. It is twent
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    Francesca De Grandis says #
    This is not in response to Candi but a question to anyone who is print-disabled: I did not mention in my response to Candi that I

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Are You Baba Yaga?

I want a Faerie cottage on wheels,
in which to travel the country.
Traversing wide plains, in my magic hut,
I'll settle down each night by its cozy hearth,
cat curled up alongside.
I will drink mint tea all day,
munch crisp apples by the side of the road,
and study rain.
I will park my home by lakes,
under oak trees,
on beaches,
in friends' driveways,
next to waterfalls,
at festivals, at concerts,
and by farmers' markets.
No one will see, except a few blessed like me,
that my home is not wheeled, but walking on giant legs.
Or giant wings?
I'm not Baba Yaga or, rather, not who she seems.
Because she roamed wild, wandered free,
they called her a demon hag.
They had to explain away an old woman traveling solitary.
But she was a Fey Witch. Like me. A shaman. A priestess.
We journey in our myths, serving our Gods
by ministering to those we meet along the path
and by our joy and play.
I don't need a man, all I need are Gods and a cat.
I am a happy old woman alone. I am on an adventure.
A shut-in due to illness, every morning I hit the roads of Faerie.
Are you Baba Yaga too?
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  • Agata Nowicka
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    Love it, I love Baba Yaga - I am Polish and am very friendly with the old granny. She taught me not to flinch at bones, yuky thing
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Agata, tu!!! I was afraid no one wld relate to this post, bc it is such a personal interpretation of Baba Yaga, so i am delighted
  • Felicia
    Felicia says #
    Thank you. Your blog post was the answer I needed not what I was looking for. It gave me something great, it gave me my back my p

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A mystic needn't be an academic to be a scholar. Why is this idea important? Some people create a magical, fulfilling life based in a non-academically-shaped worldview. We also might want to teach from such an orientation. Our cosmology can be as carefully constructed and extensively developed as any scientific understanding, but many would crush our power by insisting there is only one intelligent way to see, to learn, to study.

Trust your observances made through mystical states, e.g., trance. Trust your non-ordinary modes of perception, like intuition.

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    The convergence of modern physics and mysticism over the past 30 tears makes for exciting times, and opens up so many possibilitie
  • Francesca De Grandis
    Francesca De Grandis says #
    Rick, yes, physics and metaphysics together rock! And thanks so much for yr supportive words!!
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    Francesa, do you ever find your visions contradicting science and if so, how do you handle the contradiction? I'm talking like a v

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